My Life With A Fraud

As I sit and type this article I want it to be nothing but a lesson to the young ladies who will one day read this or are currently reading this. Listen and learn ladies, listen and learn. I always write while heavily relying on personal experiences and this right here is a true story. So I may start by answering the question 'just who is a fraud'? According to the Oxford English Dictionary it a person that is not who he claims to be.

You never really know what his real nature and personality is but with time like we are always told, the true colors will start to show.

Now honey child, learn not to ignore the signs and don’t ignore your gut when you sense something is amiss with your Mr. Right.

A fraud, most of the time if not always, has perfected the art of lying and false misrepresentations albeit deceit. Strong words you might say but it is nothing but the gospel truth.

Especially when approaching girls, they perfect lies and out do most Oscar award winners in putting up a show. They say what you want to hear and go to great lengths to get you to date them. He is so perfect in the beginning, everything is flowers and butterflies in the honeymoon period.  It takes time to realize but the minute you do, cut all contacts and leave for good. Don’t wait around making excuses for a grown man, just walk away.

As I write this story, I write with a bruised ego perhaps nobody likes to be conned after all but more so with a lesson that burns inside and I feel the need to share it. These people have based all their lives on lies such that lying comes naturally for them. It’s both flawless and effortless and with a little pulling of emotional strings, they will have you eating out of the palm their hand.

I was a victim of the above kind of person and let me tell you something his lies knew no bounds. He lied about his own kin and he was an expert at emotional blackmail and fake suicidal thoughts. It was one of the most shocking revelations when his close friend ousted him. This guy had me so strung and I believed some of the most outrageous lies he span. All my friends could see it but me and more shocking my own mom advised me against it yet all she had was the phone conversations she heard.

Like they say love is blind and what that really means is that it blinds us against a person’s wrongs and weaknesses. So you might wonder why a girl will fall prey to such a person. The answer might range from really simple to just down right complicated. In my case he narrowed down on my caring and loving nature and played me better than the king David played the harp.

Lies that never seemed to end and he had gone to the extent of spreading the same to my close friends. At some point he even tried to make me lock horns with some of my good friends. He was clever enough to adopt the British strategy of 'divide and conquer' and brought unfathomable hurt and sadness.

Well as I speak now I have learnt as through the best teacher 'experience' but as the Bible says a wise person learns from mistakes of others. If you are currently with someone of questionable background and always spinning tales with no legit proof, run lady run. I was glad that I came to see the light, though after warnings from my friends and family. Honestly, it took a while and the final decision came from me, the life I spent with him was one of my darkest times.

I am glad I got out early enough and is able to tell this tale and though somewhat jaded at least I am well now. Picked up the pieces and now I am happily and well in a healthy relationship.

For the romantics like me, love is not evil or controlling neither is it deceitful or meant to cause harm. There is someone for everyone and just because you want to be loved don’t be blinded for it. Your love is waiting for you and need not make any rush decisions in the name of love.

With that said I now wish to sign off and say that truly, truly not all that glitters is gold and we need to look before we leap.