A Real Campus Diva's Principles

"Campus Divas for Rich Men."
This is a page that has created so much fuss in the last month and elicited all of reactions. Needless to say the condemnation rose loudly above the praise of this particular face book page. Basically the page has a couple of campus students posting their bios and pretty scandalous pictures of themselves looking for rich men to please so long as they get pampered.

In view of what this page stands for under the haughty administrator who honestly could careless of the critics I came up with 5 principles for any self respecting Campus diva.
Principle No. 1
As a decent young lady in campus the first and foremost principle should be to put God first. This is a mantra most young ladies in campus seem to throw to the back seat once well acquainted with campus life. Having God as a leading part of your life will have a positive impact in a girl's life. This relationship will provide a moral compass needed in decision making.
Principle No. 2
Keep the academic fires burning.
 As the modern day campus ladies start their academic life, it is fuelled by the will to do the best in school, all A s. As they progress the sweet little pleasures such as partying from Sunday to Sunday take the fore front. Consequently, their academics take a plunge south slowly but surely headed for the downward spiral. We all know you cannot serve two masters at a time. Eventually the main purpose of going to the university is blurred and results in a "pass" which is nothing exciting to write home about.
Principle No. 3
Never let a man (young or old) control you.
 Opposites attract no doubt about that and at some point we ladies are bound to fall for a guy at some point in most cases. Well there is nothing wrong with that fact, it is extremely tragic when a lady lets herself become a puppet. That simply means being at a man's beck and call and putting his wants and needs first. This always has a 99% negative impact on academics and honestly in life generally. While in the campus age bracket, that is when a lady is at her prime and it is a crying shame having to throw all that away.
Principle No. 4
Personal development.
This is all about focusing on becoming a better person and all rounded. What this simply means is engaging in activities that improve your traits and skills. For instance participating in inter- varsity games, attending workshops, applying for internships during holidays. I am sure you get the drift and those are to mention but a few. This adds value to you as a person and is also a good way of avoiding being idle after all we all know an idle mind is the devil's workshop.
Principle No. 5
Integrity.
This is all about being morally upright and having good conduct. This simply means not doing anything that negates morality. If this principle was strictly and adherently observed then campus divas for rich men, girls sleeping with lecturers for good grades, campus girls filling up Koinange street and strip clubs would be a thing of the past. The nasty stereotype that campus ladies are cheap and classless people would be a story grown old and irrelevant.

Those are my basic guidelines to achieving a lot of positivity in any campus lady's life. This is the real definition of a campus diva and a role model that young girls can look up to. A sure way to honoring all the women who fought so hard for the rights we so freely enjoy to date.

 

An Unlikely Love

This poem was written during one of those days in a relationship that seem so blurry and you feel like the love is gone but still keep on holding on.
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 I am supposed to move on
 But why am I still holding on
You torture and torment me
But without you I just cannot be.

 I keep on thinking about us
 Were we just a faux pas?
 Is there any hope left?
 So why is it that I feel bereft?

 Tell me what you feel
 Is what we have real?
 Are we letting love pass us by?
 Should we let go and say goodbye?

 I love you more than I can say
 So why should it be this way?
 Is this my cue to walk away?
 Should I hang around at bay?

I wish it wasn't like this
Someone take it away please
I don't need money or any brew
All I ever truly want is you

It's like a labyrinth or a maze
Confusing that it leaves mein a daze
I think I need the amazing grace
To see me through this phase

But I will wait and just see
What this will turn out to be
My heart may be on the verge
Of breaking or taking a purge

I won't give up just yet
Unlikely as it may seem
I still fight for what we have
Coz how will I know
Maybe that you're The one for me.
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We Are The Choices We Make

What do I wear today? What do I eat for lunch? Where will I spend my weekend? Who will I spend it with? Decisions, decisions and so many to choices to make. This is one of the most constant phenomena  I have seen going through life. No matter at what age or what phase in development making choices is something we always have to do. Regardless of the time or place we are constantly faced with a choice to make.

It has been said time and again we a product of the choices we make in life and no statement could be more true. Gradually and surely every choice we make when faced with a decision eventually shapes our destiny and who become. After making wrong choices time and again this reality sunk in with so much depth and conviction it shocked me at first.

Come to think of it, what is the difference between say two relatively bright kids with around the same level of potential, whereby one fails and the other does exceptionally well? Isn't it the choices they make? One may decide to study real hard and the other to slack in their studies and ultimately hard work will go rewarded. I must also admit that indeed every rule has an exception and that not all the choices we make in life have a direct bearing on who we eventually become.

All in all there is undeniable evidence that most of the choices we make end up sometimes changing the course of our lives. Some actions have irreversible consequences no doubt for instance a wild night getting high and leading to wreck less and unprotected sex. Say for instance that one of the partakers is HIV positive and ends up infecting the partner, what next? Wouldn’t the destiny of the recently infected party change and take a new course? There is no turning back from such a situation and what is done can't be undone in that kind of situation.

I could give another case scenario where say you are the average Kenyan rushing off to work trying to avoid the trappings that come with being late. Maybe you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed and had to battle with horrific traffic on your way to work. You get off the matatu or bus and are in a hurry to cross the road to get your office. The traffic lights is clearly lighting up green and you are looking from your clock to the flow of cars trying to make a choice between crossing or waiting for the lights to turn red.

Depending on the choice you make, you can either cross the road before it is safe and risk ending knocked down. There is a possibility that one of the cars may knock you down and you could either get a minor injury, paralyzed or die. All the same you may have lady luck on your side and get away untouched and unharmed. All the same you can avoid the gambling with your own life and wait for the right time to cross the road.

So to wrap it up , may we always embrace wisdom and common sense in all the choices we make and be able to live with them. Nothing can bring so much misery to a soul like regret and going down the "I wish I knew" road in life. Undeniably there is no escaping the fact that we have to make decisions every day in life but may we learn from others and past mistakes.

Steve Harvey's Act Like A Lady Book Review

The book Act like a Lady, Think like a Man was quite an interesting read I must admit. I got hooked from the first few pages and kept going non-stop till the very end. The introduction was catchy and really aroused my interest. At first I was quite skeptical as there are always millions of guides on relationships out there and each always claims to profess good command of the subject. All the same I decided to give Steve Harvey the benefit of doubt plus the fact that he really used to make me laugh on sitcoms didn’t hurt. In the first few pages he talks about his life and how he started out and points out that his show,” Ask Steve” and his daughters are his inspiration for putting pen to paper. He says that the reason for writing is to empower women to know exactly what goes on in men’s mind and make informed and proper decisions.
The major highlights of the book are:
•    What Drives Men; he starts by saying that men are simple beings and are driven by three main things. Those are: who he is, what he does and how much he makes and adds that so long as he has not achieved along those lines he will be too busy to be focused on the woman he is in a committed relationship.
•    How Men Love; this was one chapter that I was more than glad to dig into. According to Steve Harvey men show their love in three basic ways.
 Those are:
 Professing; that is by acknowledging who the lady in his life is. For example, introducing her as his girlfriend, his girl, his baby mama, his fiancé or his wife. If he does not introduce you as any of the above maybe by your name or just as a friend then there is nothing more than friendship going on.
Providing; Steve falls back on the societal dogma that men should provide for their families and that it is part of men’s reason for existing, bringing home the bacon. He wraps it up by saying that the more a man is able to provide, the more alive he feels.
Protecting; basically in this part of the book talks about how any man who truly loves his lady should protect her from harm. That once a man cares about you, you as his lady become a prized possession worthy of his protection.
An even more interesting part of the book is the three things every man wants and needs. These are Support, Loyalty and” the Cookie”. Almost naturally I found myself drawn to what he had to say about” the cookie”. He sums it up by saying that men need to be physically engaged with the woman they love and that’s the only way men connect. With these three things that come naturally to women, men are good to go.
The rest of the book goes through concepts like “the 90 day rule” and strongly advocates for it. He mentions some indicators that describe the way a man treats a lady who he wants from a lady who he is just having fun with. He draws up a few case scenarios of how to talk to your man in a way that doesn’t put him on the defensive.
He continues to point out instances ladies can use to see if they are compatible with their male partners. In a nut shell he gives his take on the male stereotypes such as “players” and “mama’s boys” as well “non-committer.” As the book comes to a close he takes up a question and answer session where he answers questions from his lady audience.
My take is that it is an interesting read and there are some undeniable truths quotes more so, I would recommend it as a book to unwind with. At the same time am not proclaiming it is the cure to any ailing relationship after all its Steve’s opinion. It has a similarly titled movie corresponding with the book produced by Steve himself. The movie has a good cast and is quite comical and in line with the theme of the book.
Rating: 8/10.

Now and Forever Only Yours

You're love for me is so heavenly
And I know it will last eternally
I accept you and all you give gladly
You're mine and I yours wholly
I am now and forever, only yours.

I know this is just the beginning
To a love with so much meaning
One that is so truly everlasting
An eternity with you I'll be spending
I am now and forever, only yours.

By the best, I've surely been loved
A kind of love I thought I'd been deprived
But with you I know happiness  won't be denied
Your loving so good, leaves me satisfied
I am now and forever, only yours.

I am complete with you dear
In my heart you are ever near
By my side What have i to fear?
With you I know I shall never tear
I am now and forever, only yours.

You are showing me what I've never seen
Taking me to places I've never been
I'm not afraid to always come clean
As I know to me you'll never be mean
I am now and forever, only yours.

Take me wherever you go
From me you'll rarely get a 'no'
Because of you true love I know
And I am sure it will deeply grow
I am now and forever, only yours.

You always make me smile
With you by me I'd go a mile
Sticking by your side all the while
Daily getting sweeter far from bile
I am now and forever, only yours.

With you affection I'll never feign
You are king and in my heart you reign
I would endure any kind of pain
For you ,with you only I would only gain
I am now and forever, only yours.

Enjoying the little pleasures of life

So many times we go along life feeling troubled and frustrated such that we don't take time to appreciate the little pleasures in life. We worry so much about finances, futile job searches, unmet targets, deadlines and so many other things such that we forget what is truly important.

Then again, what is truly important in life? The top most thing must be the fact that one indeed possess the gift of life. Think about it... If you were not alive you wouldn't even be able to worry or get disappointed. You would miss out on both the good and bad stuff and in a nutshell have nothing.

So even before you start musing about how little you earn or why that job promotion is taking ages, think about all the things that you do have,some of which you don't pay a single cent for. I mean nobody gets a deduction on their payslip reading "Sunshine Bill" or even worse"Oxygen Tax".

All these things are graciously given to us by our maker , free of charge yet we get so consumed we dont even have a chance to enjoy them. So take a minute and think about it even before you start counting all the "must haves" you need.

Imagine this case scenario...what if there were angels in heaven working in the "prayer request" department? Some of us would be very much responsible for making the poor angels working overtime. Always 'ask' 'ask' 'ask' but rarely 'thanks' 'thanks' 'thanks'.

So next time before you throw your hands in exasperation at that inconsiderate matatu driver for almost hitting your car. Just say "thank you God for I have a car." Lady before you scream at that adorable two year old because he is being a handful, take minute and say "thank you God for my baby."

Take some time off your daily schedule to do the proverbial "smelling of the flowers". Enjoy the sun, take a walk and enjoy the scenery, the trees and the flowers. Spend time with a loved one or call up an old friend.

In short life is how we live it , so take it one day at a time and enjoy the little pleasures of life.