We Are The Choices We Make

What do I wear today? What do I eat for lunch? Where will I spend my weekend? Who will I spend it with? Decisions, decisions and so many to choices to make. This is one of the most constant phenomena  I have seen going through life. No matter at what age or what phase in development making choices is something we always have to do. Regardless of the time or place we are constantly faced with a choice to make.

It has been said time and again we a product of the choices we make in life and no statement could be more true. Gradually and surely every choice we make when faced with a decision eventually shapes our destiny and who become. After making wrong choices time and again this reality sunk in with so much depth and conviction it shocked me at first.

Come to think of it, what is the difference between say two relatively bright kids with around the same level of potential, whereby one fails and the other does exceptionally well? Isn't it the choices they make? One may decide to study real hard and the other to slack in their studies and ultimately hard work will go rewarded. I must also admit that indeed every rule has an exception and that not all the choices we make in life have a direct bearing on who we eventually become.

All in all there is undeniable evidence that most of the choices we make end up sometimes changing the course of our lives. Some actions have irreversible consequences no doubt for instance a wild night getting high and leading to wreck less and unprotected sex. Say for instance that one of the partakers is HIV positive and ends up infecting the partner, what next? Wouldn’t the destiny of the recently infected party change and take a new course? There is no turning back from such a situation and what is done can't be undone in that kind of situation.

I could give another case scenario where say you are the average Kenyan rushing off to work trying to avoid the trappings that come with being late. Maybe you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed and had to battle with horrific traffic on your way to work. You get off the matatu or bus and are in a hurry to cross the road to get your office. The traffic lights is clearly lighting up green and you are looking from your clock to the flow of cars trying to make a choice between crossing or waiting for the lights to turn red.

Depending on the choice you make, you can either cross the road before it is safe and risk ending knocked down. There is a possibility that one of the cars may knock you down and you could either get a minor injury, paralyzed or die. All the same you may have lady luck on your side and get away untouched and unharmed. All the same you can avoid the gambling with your own life and wait for the right time to cross the road.

So to wrap it up , may we always embrace wisdom and common sense in all the choices we make and be able to live with them. Nothing can bring so much misery to a soul like regret and going down the "I wish I knew" road in life. Undeniably there is no escaping the fact that we have to make decisions every day in life but may we learn from others and past mistakes.