The major highlights of the book are:
• What Drives Men; he starts by saying that men are simple beings and are driven by three main things. Those are: who he is, what he does and how much he makes and adds that so long as he has not achieved along those lines he will be too busy to be focused on the woman he is in a committed relationship.
• How Men Love; this was one chapter that I was more than glad to dig into. According to Steve Harvey men show their love in three basic ways.
Those are:
Professing; that is by acknowledging who the lady in his life is. For example, introducing her as his girlfriend, his girl, his baby mama, his fiancé or his wife. If he does not introduce you as any of the above maybe by your name or just as a friend then there is nothing more than friendship going on.
Providing; Steve falls back on the societal dogma that men should provide for their families and that it is part of men’s reason for existing, bringing home the bacon. He wraps it up by saying that the more a man is able to provide, the more alive he feels.
Protecting; basically in this part of the book talks about how any man who truly loves his lady should protect her from harm. That once a man cares about you, you as his lady become a prized possession worthy of his protection.
An even more interesting part of the book is the three things every man wants and needs. These are Support, Loyalty and” the Cookie”. Almost naturally I found myself drawn to what he had to say about” the cookie”. He sums it up by saying that men need to be physically engaged with the woman they love and that’s the only way men connect. With these three things that come naturally to women, men are good to go.
The rest of the book goes through concepts like “the 90 day rule” and strongly advocates for it. He mentions some indicators that describe the way a man treats a lady who he wants from a lady who he is just having fun with. He draws up a few case scenarios of how to talk to your man in a way that doesn’t put him on the defensive.
He continues to point out instances ladies can use to see if they are compatible with their male partners. In a nut shell he gives his take on the male stereotypes such as “players” and “mama’s boys” as well “non-committer.” As the book comes to a close he takes up a question and answer session where he answers questions from his lady audience.
My take is that it is an interesting read and there are some undeniable truths quotes more so, I would recommend it as a book to unwind with. At the same time am not proclaiming it is the cure to any ailing relationship after all its Steve’s opinion. It has a similarly titled movie corresponding with the book produced by Steve himself. The movie has a good cast and is quite comical and in line with the theme of the book.
Rating: 8/10.
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